“Honey, can you help me find my glasses? I don’t see them anywhere.”
I had been searching for my eyeglasses for 15 minutes, and I decided to enlist the assistance of my husband. One minute later he walked out of our bedroom, grinning from ear to ear and triumphantly holding up my glasses.
“Where we they?” I asked in surprise.
“On the dresser where you usually put them.”
I had checked my dresser three different times and they weren’t there. How could I have missed them?
Although I felt sheepish, I was truly grateful for my husband. He was able to provide perspective that I didn’t have and his perspective solved my problem
As we live and lead, being in community with others is incredibly valuable. For some people this is easier to do than for others. Our independent society esteems the “self made” man and woman. Somehow we feel inferior or deficient if we ask for someone else’s perspective. But there really is nothing like a second pair of eyes. Or to have a trusted person look at a situation from a different frame of reference.
My grammar skills are excellent, and I love to proofread for other writers. Without effort my eyes go straight to the typos on a page. Nevertheless, I always ask at least one other person to read my writing before submitting it. I know what I intended to write, so I see things the way they’re supposed to be rather than what is really there. Someone else can help me by seeing what is actually there and pointing out what I may have overlooked.
At times, like my glasses, I don’t see what is right in front of me. Perhaps I’m too close to a problem. Perhaps I have been involved in an organization for a long time. The more engaged I am in a situation, the less I can see the answers. Other people can generate dynamic ideas and solutions when I feel stuck.
God has given us the gift of others. Don’t do this thing called life alone.
“Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success” (Proverbs 15:22, NLT).
“So don’t wage war without wise guidance; victory depends on having many advisers” (Proverbs 24:6).
Who is in your circle of advisers? Who in your life offers valuable perspective?
Inviting the input of others isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of strength. And wisdom. Be willing to live and lead in partnership with others.
Heavenly Father, thank You for including me as a member of the Body of Christ. Help me live and lead in community with others, and to reject the notion that I can do it alone. May I be open to the perspective of others and be willing to share my insights with them. As we help one another, be glorified. In Jesus’ name. Amen.