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Be Patient With Yourself


Who are you more patient with—others or yourself? If you’re anything like me, I am harder on myself than on anyone else. I am a perfectionist. However, I can be flexible with other people, and brutal with myself.

Jesus has done so much in my life, and I desire to please Him. I want to reflect Him in every way. But sometimes I don’t change fast enough. I get impatient with my lack of progress and the times when I face a set back. Sometimes I can be my own worst enemy.

I need to remember that transformation is a process, a consistent renewal over time. It’s not about arriving. It’s about becoming.

It would be crazy to expect a newborn baby to immediately start walking. We understand that it takes time to learn to roll over, scoot, crawl, walk, and then run.

The process from child to adult takes at least 18 years. Brain development experts say the brain isn’t fully developed until age 25-30!

It takes 10,000 hours of practicing a skill—the right kind of practice—before a person reaches an expert level.

So, why do I forget when it comes to my own personal and spiritual growth? Maturity is a continual process. Servant leadership requires on-going diligence to cultivate. There may be a growth spurt. Sometimes it will be three steps forward, two steps back. But over time I’m making progress.

What about you? Do you relate? Are there areas in which you need to renew your trust in the step-by-step work of God in your life? You may not be where you would like, but look at how far you’ve come.

“And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns” (Philippians 1:6, TLB).

We have God’s promise that He is always at work in us. Sometimes visible. Sometimes unseen. His work of grace continues to mold and shape us throughout our life time or until the return of Jesus Christ.

We thrive in life and in God’s calling as leaders when we stop beating ourselves up. Moment by moment, walk in His grace. Be patient with yourself. God isn’t finished yet.

May God give you more and more grace and peace as you grow in your knowledge of God and Jesus our Lord (2 Peter 1:2, NLT).

Heavenly Father, thank You that You see me as I am, imperfections and all. Thank You for not leaving me where You found me. You continue to work in me, transforming me into the image of Jesus Christ. Forgive me for my impatience and for the times I condemn myself. Help me to respond to Your conviction, to receive Your grace, and to allow the Holy Spirit to work in me. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

One thought on “Be Patient With Yourself

  1. Thank you, Joddi-Jay, for your transparency. I love this: “It’s not about arriving. It’s about becoming.” Too often when I’m focused on “arriving” I’m also focused on self and self-effort! My transformation comes when He is the object of my focus and the object of my affection. Thank you for sharing!


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